First and foremost, some shameless self-promotion: if you’re interested in obtaining a copy of The Mariner’s Wife, my second chapbook, fear not! There is still time! The pre-publication sales period ends on April 18th. Check out Finishing Line Press’ website to order it (also, check out the amazing cover photograph by the amazing Bogna Kuczerawy — how lucky was I to get permission to use this?)!
Second and unforemost, I am a day late on my weekly NaPoWriMo update, which may, in itself, tell you all ye need know about how NaPoWriMo is going. We’re over two weeks in, and while I am still, somehow, miraculously, fifteen for fifteen, I feel as though I’ve entered my sophomore slump. The steam runneth out, and so, it feels, doth the inspiration. I’m at the point of NaPoWriMo where poetry begins to feel like a lot of practice, muscle-stretching and exercises: perspiration, with little inspiration.
Which leads to a question which, I think, a lot of writers often wonder about: what is it that makes a good piece of writing — or, more importantly, a good writer — is it practice and perspiration, or is it some stroke of luck, some natural talent, pure muse-given inspiration?
I found myself pondering this question while at home this weekend. My mother is an absolute expert at two things that elude me absolutely: cooking and decorating. First off: cooking. Whereas I regularly ruin Jell-o and can’t seem to make toast without burning it, my mother is a master chef. Seriously. As in, should have her own show on Food Network. You take one bite of my mother’s lasagna, you will never eat anyone else’s lasagna. My mother attributes her skill in cooking to the fact that she, well, cooks — she tells me that, when it comes to the kitchen, practice makes perfect. And practice she does: trying new recipes, altering old ones, tasting and salting and tasting again. I have followed her advice, to the extent my patience allows, and practiced, and I have gotten to the point where I don’t burn everything every time I cook. But, sitting down this weekend to her goat-cheese stuffed chicken with figs and roasted asparagus (I know — seriously), I knew that no amount of practice would bring me to the point of that dish.
So maybe it is natural talent. Maybe it is some spark. But maybe that spark is something different than the “you got it or you don’t” theorizers suggest. Maybe the answer lies in watching my mother cook, and watching my mother decorate. Upon reflection, I think that I have learned more about my attitude towards writing, and towards the teaching of writing, by watching her than by reading or studying anything else. When I cook, I’m usually frazzled and harried and dropping egg shells in a bowl and saying some unbloggable words. But when my mother cooks, she’s transformed, serene. When she’s dealing with fabric and paint swatches, with patterns that match and paintings that flow, she’s completely enthralled, she’s happy — she loves the work. She loves it enough to go on, to push beyond boundaries and difficulties, to continue to try , to ignore the no’s, the seeming impossibilities, to keep going, to create.
And perhaps that’s the spark, after all: not so much natural talent as the natural gift of patience that love can give. If you love the work, you’ll stick with it, you’ll persevere, and you’ll progress, even when it seems more like perspiration than inspiration, because you love it enough to know that if you stick with it, the inspiration will return.

Emma Bolden is a writer and teacher. She is the author of How To Recognize A Lady, a chapbook of poems published as part of Edge by Edge, the third in Toadlily Press' Quartet Series. Her short story, "Sympathy," was selected as the winner of the 2007 Georgetown Review prize, and her one-act, Drinks, was selected as the winner of the American Theatre Co-Op's Winter 2004 Contest for Original One-Act Plays.

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April 15, 2008 at 11:36 pm
Pamela Hart
dear emma such an amazing metaphor you have made of ‘process’ and how we can be transformed in the work of our practice, even when doing something we don’t necessarily love, though it’s particularly wonderful when transformation occurs while practicing what compels us & calls us. which is why i see you and your mother in a kitchen/family room– both working -the room embued with different energies — her good food in the oven and your good poems in a notebook. maybe you’re not literally in the same room but still you’re sharing that space we inhabit where we practice and are changed. thank you for this lovely posting.
ps — sorry for the long reply!
April 16, 2008 at 1:31 pm
mariegauthier
“goat-cheese stuffed chicken with figs and roasted asparagus” — !! — how are you not home for dinner every night? You have the forbearance of a saint!
Thank you for this wonderful post, Emma. You are right in every way.
April 16, 2008 at 4:36 pm
bloglily
It is indeed love. Thanks for the reminder.
April 16, 2008 at 8:36 pm
jessiecarty
Beautiful post Emma
I’d have to agree completely. I am a fairly decent cook but I find it often stresses me out, so I don’t have that spark, I don’t have that love for me, but my mother did. She made the best cookies and these things we called corn cakes. She could also knit which I just don’t have the patience for.
April 16, 2008 at 8:38 pm
jessiecarty
Beautiful post Emma
I’d have to agree completely. I am a fairly decent cook but I find it often stresses me out, so I don’t have that spark, I don’t have that love for me, but my mother did. She made the best cookies and these things we called corn cakes. She could also knit which I just don’t have the patience for.
April 17, 2008 at 3:30 pm
Matt
I hate to say there are just two kinds of anything, but I think there are two kinds of writers. Ones who start with something and then write about it, and ones who start with nothing and go from there. I have a theory that writer’s block occurs most commonly in the first group, which is why I like to think of myself as a member of the second group. A good slogan for our group might be “Be your own muse.” Another slogan might be “If you can’t think of anything to write, write anything.” This is especially easy to do with poetry, where everything is allowed, or should be. Anyway. Just throwing that out there.
April 18, 2008 at 2:02 am
Art
I like the point that it is an amalgamation of talent and practice. The “it” being whatever we are good at. For you it is writing and teaching. And I am always eager to read your blog and see what your fertile mind has come up with for me to think deeply about.
April 26, 2008 at 2:29 am
emmabolden
Dear Pamela — thank you so much for this beautiful reply! I only wish my poems were as good as my mother’s dishes.
April 26, 2008 at 2:31 am
emmabolden
Marie — I’m really not sure, now that you mention, how I don’t drive home every night for dinner. Especially since, at this point, I haven’t been to the grocery store in two weeks and have two sad brown little leaves of lettuce looking at me from the refrigerator. Hm …
April 26, 2008 at 2:32 am
emmabolden
Dear Jessie — I’m not even sure what a corn cake would be, but I’m sure I would find it beyond delicious!
April 26, 2008 at 2:32 am
emmabolden
Dear Art — thank you so much for the kind comment! And that you for coming by. I hope to see you at Sun Belt this summer!
April 26, 2008 at 2:35 am
emmabolden
Dear Matt — yes, but I’ve always been so frightened by nothing. Remember The Nothing? In The Neverending Story? The biggest, baddest, most oddly conceptual enemy in children’s movie history? I still have nightmares about that.
BUT, I have found myself writing from nothing more and more during NaPoWriMo, discarding all plans and predisposed notions, and finding some wonderful surprises. So I might just be making my way to Camp II.